How would you help your little if she was petrified of the doctors office? Like she hated needles and just doctors in general?
Thank you for the quite refreshing question.
First of all, I would make sure she knows I acknowledged her fear and that I’m going to help her. Many people tend to laugh or take lightly other’s irrational fears but that’s clearly not helping. Saying “Don’t be afraid” is not going to help and even shows a lack of care.
Then I’ll reassure her, making clear that she won’t be alone and that I will not only go, but will stay all the time with her.
When entering the doctor’s office, I’ll comfort her telling that I know her experience will be unpleasant but that it’ll be over quickly. Also that she won’t be left alone at any time, so she knows I’ll be there to keep her safe.
Once done, I’ll congratulate her on how a brave girl she has been and that she surely deserves a special treat…
About the needle-specific part, first of all I’d make sure we go to a place where I know they take blood (or whatever is needed) dolor-free. This can sound odd as you would think that it depends more on the patient than the nurse, but from My experience it’s the opposite. Then, just like for the doctor, I’ll make it clear that I’ll stay all the time next to her and that if she’s feeling scared, My hand will be there for her to crush. When going to the examination room, I’ll command her to keep eye contact with Me at all time, while going to the seat, while seated, and when leaving. I’ll keep her hand in Mine and place My other hand on her cheek while her eyes stay locked on Mine. For most people scared about needle, blood, or any medical intervention, it’s not the action itself that truly make them shake or faint, but it’s seeing it. I already saw someone who was a bit scared of a blood exam smiling and telling he felt nothing when being told the needle was already in and that it would be finished quickly, to immediately faint at the sight of the blood filling the tube.